Couples and Relationship Counseling in Naperville, IL. Improve your communication

All relationships have their issues.  Marriage, couples, relationships of all kinds, young and old alike, has problems.  Many people seek counseling or therapy when their usual form of solving problems isn’t working.  When communication becomes too difficult and two people come to an impasse, counseling can be an option to help.

Marriage is hard.  Being in a relationship is hard.  Being a couple is hard.  Luckily, through counseling or therapy, communication and love can be restored.  Each couple, marriage, or relationship has a particular dynamic.  There are two sets of personalities, two sets of values, back grounds, priorities, and experiences that all make up the essence of the relationship.  Communication is an important part of melding a couple’s worlds together.  There will be many differences, and you’ll need good communication to learn how to grow and mold your lives together.  Take a deep breath, and tell yourself you can do it.  As children growing up, no one teaches us how to be in relationships.  There’s no couples class in school, no intimate communication strategies seminars during the most formative years of your life, when you are learning things like math and science, therefore it’s not integrated into our psyche.  What IS embedded in our brains, is the natural relationships we have experienced.  Usually with parents or peers, possible a relationship or two along the way.  And there is no guarantee that healthy communication styles were taught and practiced.  You get what you got.  And now as adults we have to deal with it.  And probably change it.  And that’s OK.

 

Communication

Ever try to tell someone something and they interpret it a completely different way than you intended?  That’s the send-and-receive miscommunication.  The way we mean things and try to communicate things, are not always the way the other person hears it.  Communication is an essential part of a healthy relationship.  We must learn to say things in a way where the other person can hear it.  And vice versa.  A common communication mistake I hear couples saying is “I understand”.  While that’s great, how does the person KNOW you understand.  Reflection communication is something we teach and practice in counseling.  We also address story communication.  The story we tell ourselves has an impact on how information is processed in our brains.  Therefore, each individual’s stories they tell themselves, can have an impact on communication and therefore the entire relationship.  Couples often struggle with the words to use when communicating with their partners.  It’s important in therapy to be open to learning new styles of communication.  It may be uncomfortable at first.  But when your partner responds more positively to you, the rewards of healthy communication will be fruitful.

Relationship Components

Emotional, physical, mental, verbal.  These are essential components of any relationship.  If you think about when you were a child, and you had a relationship with your parents, each of these components factored in to the kind of relationship it was.  Chances are the relationship you had with your parents has an effect on the romantic relationship you end up having. We tend to recreate situations where our needs were not met, in order to fix them, and get the need met.  That usually ends up being situations created with the relationship we are involved in. We all have relationship needs that we want met.  How much of those relationship needs are just YOUR own?  Probably all of them.  If you have a partner who has similar needs, and have no problem giving those needs and also are receiving them, lucky you.  But most of us do not find the perfect fit in all these categories.  Therefore we have to work in our relationship to create positive feelings about some unmet needs.  In relationship counseling, we look at the individual as well as the couple.  Individual issues can have a large impact on the couple.  We look at all aspects of the relationship.

Marriage Counseling

If you are reading this because your marriage has some problems, then try some therapy.  Counseling for couples is important at any stage, even PRE-marriage.  It can be beneficial to come into therapy before tying the marriage knot, in order to avoid some of those things you find out after year 1 and have some negative feelings about.  Marriage takes work.  It can change over time, and children, work, among other things can get in the way of communication and your marriage.  Don’t wait for your marriage to fix itself, seek a professional to help you improve your marriage.

In a nutshell, no relationship, couple or marriage is perfect.  Each has it’s own set of problems and issues.  The good news is there is counseling and therapy available to help.  We here at Inner Courage Counseling want to help you navigate the smallest and biggest issues in your relationship.

*Be advised all mental, emotional and behavioral services are currently offered via online counseling. In-person sessions available with minimal availability.*

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1754 N. Washington St Suite 104A
Naperville, IL 60563



620 W Roosevelt Suite C1
Wheaton, IL 60187

info@innercouragecounselingllc.com
630.995.3193

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Erin Burns, LPC


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Skylar Nagy, LCPC, Clinical Supervisor


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"When getting in touch with someone to find a therapist I was emailed by Stacy Ramirez, she was very kind and helpful which was appreciated because I have never seen a therapist so I was unsure of the process. I had my first session with Beth Halterman, she made sure to introduce herself before the first session which i thought was very sweet because I was a bit nervous about seeking a therapist to begin with and seeing someone face to face for the first time without having ever spoken before would have made me a bit more nervous."
January 25, 2021
"When getting in touch with someone to find a therapist I was emailed by Stacy Ramirez, she was very kind and helpful which was appreciated because I have never seen a therapist so I was unsure of the process. I had my first session with Beth Halterman, she made sure to introduce herself before the first session which i thought was very sweet because I was a bit nervous about seeking a therapist to begin with and seeing someone face to face for the first time without having ever spoken before would have made me a bit more nervous."
January 24, 2021
"Inner Courage Counseling has a lovely building that's warm and clean. My counselor was so good that when she started at Inner Courage I moved practices so I could stay with her. I would absolutely recommended them to anyone seeking counseling."
December 14, 2019
"I have always been hesitant about counseling especially when it involves my daughter. But I have to say Brittany Roback is absolutely amazing. My daughter has been seeing Brittany for about 6 months now and I have seen great improvements. Just after the first session I saw my daughter using skills Brittany had shown her. Brittany has always made sure to make my daughter and myself feel comfortable. My daughter sees it as a safe place when she sees Brittany."
December 12, 2019
"Inner Courage Counseling has really been there for me from the moment I first called and they continue to be. I have always struggled to find a counselor that I mesh well with and one that creates an environment that I feel encouraged to dedicate time for myself. I’ve learned things about myself that I never knew before and I’m excited because I know I will continue to. I truly feel like I am growing in a positive way after each session. That’s both exciting and encouraging for me."
January 5, 2021 #2
"I have been able to make tremendous leaps in my life thanks to the counseling I have received at Inner Courage Counseling. My issues and feelings feel heard and overall my life would not be the same without the help and guidance of my counselors."
January 5, 2021
"Yessica was great, I felt very heard and understood. I am excited to continue to work with her."
December 10, 2020
"Melanie has been very open and personable. She listens well and makes me feel like I am in a safe and shame free environment."
December 9, 2020

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