By: Antwa’nae Briars, Masters level Intern- Lewis Univsersity
We all know the saying. It’s a new year, so it’s a new me. This New Year’s resolution includes going to the gym, eating healthier, dropping old habits, making better life decisions, blah, blah, blah! Still, I often wonder why it takes a new year to make a person new again. Is it a fresh start and a clean slate? Or is it that we just do not want to finish up old business in the year that’s ending?
If this is the case, then I challenge you to write the wrongs of your 2019. Instead of writing out the things you want to change, acknowledge the things that didn’t change for you. Don’t forget to include the obstacles that stood in the between you and change. Why was it so hard for you to get out of bed? Why did food become a comfort for you? What triggered your anxiety? Why was commitment to projects/activities so hard for you this year? Why didn’t you get that grade/job that you wanted so badly? Why was it so hard to let go of that toxic person/situation?
Have you written it down? Do you know the answers?
Not yet? Okay, we’ll wait for you…
Got it now? Great!
Now that you know your obstacles of 2019, be proud that you acknowledged it because this not an easy task to do. The hardest thing about change is not the transition itself but finding the answers as to why it was hard to commit in the first place. So often we want to finish the year without fully completing it, walking away from doors that should have been closed long ago. Close this year out knowing that you’ve acknowledged the things you could not change and by knowing these things that, IT IS STILL OKAY!! Despite the setbacks, you made it! Your resilience is only going to build from the things you choose to overcome. A new year does not necessarily have to mean a new you, but it can be a new view!
So, here’s to a Happy New Year!!!
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